Unfortunately, there are many spouses who are alcoholic. This means the addiction affects the other spouse, too. If you are one of the spouses of alcoholic husband or wife, there are is help out there for you. Here at Desert Rose Recovery Center, we know that your spouses’ substance abuse is causing havoc in your life. We hope that your spouse will reach out to our team for treatment. In the meantime, you can call us to talk about the treatment options we have. We can also give you a list of resources to get help and healing options for yourself, too.
Don’t Keep Enabling Them
One of the biggest things that you probably do with your spouse if they have an addiction is enable them. Unfortunately, this is far too common and it only amplifies ther addiction and substance abuse. This doesn’t mean that their addiction is on you or your fault in anyway.
However, if you can stop enabling your spouse, it can show them you aren’t okay with their behavior. Also, the fewer people that are helping your spouse to use drugs and/or alcohol, the harder it is going to be to keep up with their addictive lifestyle. In time, maybe they will see that treatment is needed to help them get better.
So, if you have been:
- Covering up things for your spouse
- Taking over their responsibilities
- Ignoring their substance abuse
- Picking them up from the bar all the time
- Calling into work for them
- Taking care of them when they are high or hungover
- Drinking or drugging alongside them
Stop doing these things. It may take support from other people and there are support groups specifically for enablers. If you attend these groups, you can get the help you need to stop enabling.
Encouraging Your Spouse to Get Treatment
If you can stop enabling your alcoholic spouse, that will help significantly in showing them that you want them to enter a treatment program. In addition, it would be good to specifically encourage them to go into a treatment program. Some of the ways you can do this include:
- Have the uncomfortable conversation about their addiction
- Give them a list of treatment options (we have some resources here at Desert Rose)
- Stay callm and don’t give into their demands
- Don’t have alcohol and drugs near them
These are some of the many ways that you can encourage your alcoholic spouse to get the treatment they need. While these tips don’t guarantee your spouse is going to immediately or ever go into treatment, there is a much better chance that they will.
Going to Therapy with Your Alcoholic Spouse
Therapy could be helpful for you and your alcoholic spouse. There are so many benefits of attending therapy that can help when someone has an alcohol and/or drug addiction. These same benefits apply when someone has a mental health disorder or co-occurring disorder, too. Some of the benefits we want you to know about when going to therapy include:
- Having someone to talk and vent to
- Being able to identify and express your thoughts and feelings
- Learning new coping skills
- Build your support system
- Lean on others in group therapy to get the help you need
- Listen to other people’s stories and learn what works for them in the healing or recovery process
Going to therapy is one of the best things you and your alcoholic spouse can do. There are many types of therapy that are great for alcoholics including group, individual, family, nutritional and more. These same options are ones you could attend on your own if you are the spouse of an alcoholic, too.
Attending a Support Group
As noted above, there are various therapy options that are beneficial when someone needs to overcome an addiction. Those therapy options are great for the spouses of an alcoholic, too.
In addition to therapy options, it would be good for you to attend a support group. The options out there for support groups are quite extensive, as well. Some of the support groups that may be beneficial for you and your alcoholic spouse include:
- Other 12-step addiction recovery meetings
These are some of the numerous support groups that may help you start the healing process. Whether you are the spouse of an alcoholic or you are the alcoholic, it is crucial that you attend at least one of these support groups. Studies show that people who attend these support groups in recovery have a much lower risk of relapsing. Other studies show that spouses and family members of alcoholics can benefit throughout their healing process when they lean on others for support through these groups.
Treatment Options for Alcoholics
Now that you know a lot of the different ways that you can support and help your alcoholic spouse to get treatment, we should discuss the treatment options available for them. Some of these treatment options include:
- Intensive outpatient treatment
- Partial-hospitalization programs
- Inpatient or residential rehab treatment
- Medication-assisted treatment
- Combination of these programs in your treatment plan
In each one of these treatment options, you will find there are so many great recovery-related services such as therapy, meditation, yoga and more. Here at Desert Rose, we have so much help and treatment for alcoholics. We even have resources and help for the spouses of an alcoholic, too.
Get Help for Yourself and Your Spouse Today
Do you have an alcoholic spouse? Are you struggling with your thoughts and emotions due to their substance abuse? If so, right now we want you to know that you aren’t alone. There are millions of other spouses who are going through these issues, too.
With this being said, there are many ways that you can get help for yourself and your alcoholic spouse starting today. Begin finding out more about the support options above by reaching out to our Desert Rose team.
Contact us today to get help for yourself and your spouse.