Sober Cookie™ Cravings

  • By Jodi MacNeal
  • 12 Dec, 2017

The cravings started in earnest Thursday afternoon.

That was the day I took receipt of 596 of the prettiest cookies you’d ever want to see. Enormous, elegant silver-and-white snowflakes, teeny Christmas trees, and cheerful snowmen, each hand-crafted for Desert Rose by an artist/baker in Southern California (Jen, from Sugary Sweet Cookies ).

Until then, the cookies in my path had been easy to ignore:
  1. Platter of shrink-wrapped grocery store cookies, probably baked in 2011. Meh.
  2. Those Danish butter cookies that come in the blue tin. Wouldn’t walk two steps out of my way for those.
  3. Fresh chocolate-dipped almond cookies from a local Italian bakery, hand-delivered by a professional acquaintance. Those had the potential to be trouble, so I handed them off immediately to our clinical director.
But then roughly 50 dozen fresh-baked cookies, each individually wrapped, arrived for our in-house Sober Cookie™ Challenge. For the first time, it dawned on me: Not only are these morsels going to live in my office for a week or more, it’s my job to transfer every single one into our Christmas gift boxes. Oh, dear.

I voiced that tiny bit of personal anguish to one of our therapists. “So you failed to think through the consequences of your action,” she observed. “That’s pretty standard behavior in addiction.” I didn’t know that before. Yet another thing this challenge has taught me.

A half-hour later, our director of operations – who is not doing the challenge, the coward – begged a cookie. He took one bite and rolled his eyes in ecstasy. “Oh, MAN, that’s delicious. Want a bite? Just one little taste? One won’t hurt you.” His point was not subtle.

I didn’t crumble that day, nor the next. But it came really close. Our office was virtually deserted Friday as I worked on our holiday boxes, and those cookies started calling. Not the perfect ones, but the very few that had crumbled a bit in transit and can’t be given away. Those would have been the ones I’d have scarfed down without thinking, pre-SCC.

So instead I went home a little early and had some chocolate. I realize the hypocrisy of that. I can stay true to the Sober Cookie™ Challenge as long as I don’t eat a cookie… but I can get sugar 100 other ways. An alcoholic can’t play by those rules. She can’t give up her daily beers, but allow herself a shot of vodka when the cravings kick in.

We’ve never said that giving up cookies is the same thing as staying clean from drugs or alcohol . Not remotely close. What we have maintained is that it would give the rest of us a glimpse of the hard and endless work of staying sober. I can now say I’ve failed to consider the consequences of my actions, I’ve faced peer pressure and the physical pangs of cravings, I’ve had to take evasive action more than once, and the only thing that’s stopped me is the accountability I feel to others doing the challenge with me. Awareness, 5. Cookies, 0.

Desert Rose is sponsoring the Sober Cookie™ Challenge to build awareness of the difficulty of life in recovery. If you (or someone you know) is ready for sobriety, please call us at 844.338.5587 .

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So often I talk about the big blessings of sobriety – great job, great life, great friends, great relationship with my family, and that feeling of inner peace and contentment. Sometimes I forget about the little things. Little things that were so out of my reach in addiction, I didn’t even believe they were possible. So here are some of those things, in no particular order:
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Len Bias: Best player Maryland had ever seen (maybe the best Maryland player ever, depending on how you feel about Juan Dixon). The future of the Celtics. About to sign an endorsement deal with Reebok. Life was perfect.

Cocaine killed that. He was 22.

Bias hadn’t left home to play college ball; he was a home-grown talent who came up just outside D.C. and played ball in Maryland so he wouldn’t have to leave his family. He had a future as wide-open and promising as any kid, ever. Already a star, a freak of athletic power and poise, he might have changed the world of professional basketball. He’d fueled the dreams of a thousand city kids who wanted to play like him, be him. He swaggered, Len Bias did. His opponents couldn’t fathom him: “He’d jump and his knees would be in my teeth.” He dunked on guys, whether he needed to or not, just because he could. Len Bias could fly.

And then cocaine ended him.

Here’s how it went down: Bias and three buddies were snorting coke in a dorm room, suite 1103 in Washington Hall. Bias did a line, tried to get up, fell back on the bad and lapsed into seizure. One guy held his legs. Another one put the handle of a pair of scissors in Bias’s mouth, to keep him from biting his own tongue. The third somehow called 911 and mumbled, over and over, that his friend was in trouble. Kept saying his friend’s name, even when the emergency operator told him it didn’t matter. “This is Len Bias. You have to get him back to life. There’s no way he can die.”

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If a stranger in a gas station parking lot asks this question, it’s easy to assume what’s going on.

“Nope. I’m fine.”

“You sure?”

“Yep, thanks.”

After working a full day, then sitting through a 4-hour class, the last thing I was in the mood for was to be pestered by a drug dealer at 11 p.m. All I wanted was to get my Marlboro Smooths and go home.

As I got into my car, annoyed by the fact that I had to start it with pliers (broken car keys aren’t worth the $200 replacement), something told me to stop.

I reversed, and rolled down my window next to the mysterious black Toyota.

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He told me that he had whatever I needed: Weed, percs, Xanax, heroin, flakka, oxies, you name it.

Addiction was too close to home to keep from speaking up.

“Do you realize what you’re doing? Do you realize what you’re selling?”

He was silent for a minute, staring at me. After what felt like eternity looking into this man’s eyes, I decided that I had the freedom to continue. What else do I say? I began to tell some of my story. I served him my heart on a silver platter.

“You don’t have to do this. There are other ways to make money.”

He looked down in shame. I encouraged him to take a few of my Desert Rose company cards in case he knew someone who needed help. He got out of his car, took the cards from my hand and stood there, shaking his head. With tears in his eyes, he said, “They’re for me.”

I sat there with this guy for 45 minutes while he poured out his heart and story.

Gary told me he’s 49 years old, works on classic cars by day, and sells drugs by night for extra money. He has a beautiful son who he loves with all of his heart. When he removed his hat and pulled his shirt collar aside, his bald head and IV port revealed his personal nightmare: Gary was also fighting stage four colon cancer. He made it clear that his cancer was not an excuse for his behavior, or for his personal drug use.

I was caught off guard when Gary squeezed my hands and began to pray. He prayed against forces of the enemy. He prayed for blessing over my life. He prayed protection and favor over his son. For himself, he prayed for wisdom and strength to do the next right thing.

As he walked back to his car, he turned around and said, “It’s time for me to go home and kiss my son good night. Thank you for reminding me of what’s important.”

Every day, we pass people by, like they’re just part of the scenery. We have absolutely no clue what kind of story, beauty, and pain lie beneath the surface.

If you're in pain, please know we understand and we're ready to help. Call us today at (844) 338-5587. 
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Last month, a longtime acquaintance told me (in slightly hushed tones) that he’s in recovery. 

I was glad that I didn't hear any traces of shame or guilt in his voice. His long-ago drinking and drug use? It’s just the life he was living at the time. He’s not afraid of being judged, or of any stigma attached to substance abuse and recovery.

It’s just that he’s moved on. He’s private about being in recovery and it’s not particularly relevant to the life he's achieved – husband, father, business owner, artist, athlete. He sponsors people, even quietly mentions that he’s a former addict when he thinks it might help somebody. He probably won’t bring it up with his kids unless they ask him point-blank, once they’re old enough to understand. It’s a crazy-healthy way to be.

For some people, declaring their recovery to the world is a part of staying clean. It gives them a sense of identity and a tribe – their own #MeToo community. They’re vocal, active, engaged. These are the folks going into the prisons, leading the meetings, talking to groups of high school students and their parents. Walking though recovery means talking about recovery. They have no secrets.

Then there are others who’ve closed and locked the door. The subject is not open for discussion, and if you happen to touch upon it, everybody’s going to feel a little uncomfortable for a while. This happened to me not long ago, with a pastor friend. Trying to find a way to refuse a glass of prosecco I offered, he made a joke about being an overachiever in everything – including, at one time, drinking. He made his point in a way that made it clear that was all he was planning to say on the matter. His right, and I respect that.

It seems to me that there are a million ways to navigate long-term recovery. What’s your way?
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